Drop The Spousal Veto

Figures taken from Spouse Reactions to Transsexuality by Zoë Kirk-Robinson for T-Vox.

In case you haven't heard, the Marriage (Same-Sex Couples) Act that progressed through Parliament contained an amendment to the Gender Recognition Act 2004 which means that if a married person wishes to transition and gain their full Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC), they must gain the consent of their spouse for the marriage to continue. This is highly problematic as it effectively gives a huge amount of control over the issuing of the full GRC to the spouse. Of course, in an ideal world, where everyone takes the news of their partner wishing to transition extremely well, then this wouldn't be a massive hurdle, however, as you can see from the figures above, things are rarely so simple. If the spouse of a transitioning partner were to dig their heels in, they could quite easily drag out divorce proceedings in an effort to frustrate and hinder.

There is no evidence to support the need for a spousal veto. There is, however, now evidence that the spousal veto is likely to be misused by those who do not want their trans spouse to transition.

Please send a message to your MP asking them to consider dropping the spousal veto.

Subject:Drop The Spousal Veto

To:Your MP

Dear MP,

Yours sincerely,


Write Your Own

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Then you should definitely read up on the issue: Spouse Reactions to Transsexuality. Or try: Trans marriage rights – Lobbying the Lords. Or this one: Same Sex Marriage Bill – Transgender Implications.

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